As a new year rolls around, I have some hard-won advice for moms making New Year’s resolutions: Just stop. Don’t do it. It’s a bad idea. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life.
Instead, take a look at your day-to-day life: packing lunches, paying bills, doing laundry, potty training, the baby’s nap, breakfast, clean up, lunch, clean up, dinner, clean up, dry cleaning, phone calls, and on and on.
Obviously, Moms shouldn’t make New Year’s resolutions.
Here are the top eight reasons why:
1) You’re already bombarded with everyone’s schedules and goals—you don’t need a new set for yourself.
2) If you’re talking fitness, moms do more lifting than most. Up the stairs with 35 pounds of screaming toddler, and down the stairs with 15 pounds of baby.
3) If you want to set a goal to get more sleep, that’s a very bad idea. You’ll never make this goal—not for 18+ years.
4) What about a goal to wake up earlier? Got it already. You’re up at 3 a.m., again at 5 a.m. and then 7 a.m. and on from there…
5) If you’re talking tightening up the budget, the cost of raising children pulls at the purse strings more than anything. Children are a great to incentive cut down on eating out. Who else is going to pay for their college education?
6) You’ve already found the magic pill to getting the age-old quota of 10 hugs a day.
7) If your goal is to be more courageous, there is nothing more courageous than momma bear. It takes hold before your baby comes into the world, and the will to protect and defend them endures until your dying day.
8) Finally, setting goals just adds to the potential for more unnecessary guilt. Guilt works on a mom’s mind like moths to a fire. Everything we aren’t doing because one of our children has a cold, or desperately needs us to tie their shoe, or etc. It’s just another thing to feel bad about.
Moms don’t need to set New Year’s goals because at the end of your first few years of parenting, what else is there to tackle? You’ve done it all. There’s nothing more noble or self-sacrificing than what you’re already doing for your children.
You are a Super Mom, and I don’t mean the super-hero type. I mean you’re super. You’re everything for your children. Without you, what would they be?
Keep on being who you are right now, because who you are this very moment is perfect. Now is not the time to try to get more brownie points.
You are the brownie.
Summer Blackhurst took a crash course in parenting five years ago. She had her first boy, followed two years later by another boy, and then 18 months later by her bouncing baby girl. With her three tiny people to take care of–AND with all that extra time she has—she is a writer, photographer, and a parenting/childcare researcher for Go Au Pair, where she has a parenting blog.